Life is supposed to be enjoyed; no matter the odds against us, or the hurdles we have to jump or the obstacles that come our way or the difficult relationships we find ourselves in. We still have but one life. The least you can do is try to enjoy it. Here are five ways we often complicate our lives:
Spend too much time on toxic people
“You’re the average of the five people you spend time with.” I am sure you’re familiar with the quote. There’s an old adage which says, “Show me your friend and I’ll tell you who you are.” Who do you spend time with? Who is your circle of influence? Do they suck the life out of you or do they positively energize you? Are your friends constantly filling your mind with negative thoughts? Do they constantly pull you down or encourage and support you? It is important you know your circle of friends and see who needs to be cut off. Don’t complicate your life any further by spending time with toxic and negative minded people.
Constantly worry about our problems
“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
The Bible rightly said it, “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?” (Matthew 6:27). Some argue that being worried is good as it actually motivates you to do things. On the flip side, however, it can make life unbearable, unpleasant and complicated for you. From worrying about paying the bills, to our weight, to the opinions of others, and mundane things like what to eat or wear (I’m guilty of that. LOL). Rather than worry about things we have little or no control over, take a deep breath and concentrate on what you can do.
Hesitate every step of the way
You want to do something but put it off. Why? You are scared thinking you will fall flat on your face if you tried. You hesitate thinking the time isn’t ‘right’ or ‘perfect’. I have been there before. It’s easier to give into self-doubt and hesitate doing anything. That way, you save your face! But you cannot sit comfortably in your comfort zone and expect to grow. It’s supposed to get uncomfortable, you’ll get scared and panic. It’s rare you get it right the first time but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try.
Have more baggage than we can carry
The more baggage you carry, the weightier you feel. You will be surprised the numbers of baggage people carry – emotional baggage, financial. It’s no wonder they wear out soon enough. When you want to board a flight, you weigh your bags to make sure it’s not overload and if it is, you will be charged extra. The same way it adds to the load of a plane, the same way it adds to your life. When we take up more than we can handle, we risk complicating our lives. It’s okay to turn down offers, say ‘no’ to people, and refuse to tolerate nonsense. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, it simply means you know your worth. If you want to live a less complicated life, you have to start weighing what you’re carrying and let go of some.
Stop looking at the grass on the other side. It looks green because someone took out time to look after it. We spend a lot of time grumbling and comparing our lives to that of ours. She looks nice and I don’t. We compare our house, job and relationships. Comparison makes you focus on the negatives of life and lose sight on all the good stuffs that come your way. In the long run you are left feeling void and miserable.